LADIES, HOW WOULD YOU APPROACH A GUY YOU'RE INTRESTED IN ?

How to Approach a Guy You're Interested In

Overcoming a Fear of Approaching Guys

What's at the heart of both of these problems is fear of rejection. Overcoming your fear is tricky, but with anything that's worth pursuing, practice makes perfect. Even if you're not especially attracted to the man across the room, make a point of going over to talk to him. By practicing walking up to a stranger, introducing yourself and turning your introduction into conversation (without relying on any tired pickup lines), you begin to build your confidence -- and that means more smiles and less blushing, stammering and sweating.

Insecurity is a turnoff, but so is overconfidence. The sweet spot here is to be yourself -- a calm, self-assured version of yourself. What's the worst that could happen?

While rejection might make you feel like crawling head first into a bottle, remember that if your approach doesn't work, it's not you that he's rejecting -- he doesn't even know you yet. Perhaps you two don't have much in common, or maybe he's just having a bad day.

The best case? You've accidentally stumbled upon your soul mate. But the most likely scenario is that you get to enjoy good conversation and maybe make a new friend.

Things to Say When You Approach a Guy,

Be kind to yourself and to your interesting stranger: have something prepared before you find yourself asking, "So, what do you do?" If you must rely on that old standby at least rephrase it. "Tell me about your job," asks the same question without the immediate whiff of cliché. Talking about the weather or a job is an easy way to open a conversation because there's no wrong answer -- these are safe. But there are better topics, and better approaches.

Let the conversation flow naturally. Share your name and ask for his. Give a detail about yourself, but turn the conversation spotlight on to him. Ask open-ended questions rather than anything that can be answered with a yes or no, and listen to what he's saying rather than waiting for your turn to talk. Look for topics aside from the weather, and work to kick off a conversation. If there's a game on, talk about sports or music. Remark on it.

Commenting on something which is trending around  is a simple one  a great opener may be, It poses a question, which obligates the other person to at least respond. After the initial exchange, someone who is interested is likely to pick up the conversational thread and go someplace else with it."

Remember: If you don't ask for what you want, you won't get it. You don't want to seem desperate or overbearing, but if you want to ask for his phone number, then ask. Getting his number isn't demanding commitment. Let him know you enjoyed talking and that you would love to chat again sometime. If you still aren't comfortable asking for his number, offer him yours.

Tips for Approaching Guys

We all have our social fears -- public speaking, for example -- and even the most confident woman may feel she can't approach a guy. But you won't get what you want until you ask for it. Since even flirting takes practice, get things started with these five easy-to-remember suggestions:

1. Talk to strangers

Contrary to the rule that kept you safe as a child, talking to strangers opens up a world of new possibilities -- new people and experiences -- and also offers risk-free practice for perfecting your approach, your handshake and your flirting skills. Speaking to a stranger may make you nervous right now, so practice by speaking to several people each day. Before long, it won't be a big deal. You'll be surprised at the reactions a simple hello can elicit.

2. Break your own iceWhile you may be tempted to break the ice by sending a friend, don't do it. Having a friend test the waters will only show that you're insecure and immature. Instead, before you make the walk over to introduce yourself, make eye contact with your man-of-interest and smile at him. This not only shows him that you're interested, but that you're confident enough to let him know you're interested. Did he smile back or send a drink your way? It's time to introduce yourself.

3. Time your approach

You're nervous enough before you approach a guy you're interested in, so be sure you don't add awkwardness to the situation by approaching him at a less-than-perfect time. Are you with co-workers? Consider flirting with him when your colleagues aren't around to see. The same is true for a guy in a medium or large group of people. Approach when he's alone or in a small group to ensure the best reception.

4. Be confident

Be confident when walking up to a man, as if you know he's already interested and has been waiting for you to come over and introduce yourself. Chances are you have something in common but don't know it yet. Your happy-hour bar or the parties you attend are likely to be part of the local fabric, and any guys you meet in your favorite hangout spots will probably share some common interests. Think about what those interests may be and start a conversation.

5. Don't drink

Although having a few drinks may give you the courage to approach an attractive stranger, your drunk self is not going to give others the best first impression. Limit the social lubricant to one drink.

Good luck!